When someone close, tells you about your shortcomings or idiosyncrasies, that you never saw from their perspective, it can shake you up. It shakes you at the core and you are forced to start introspection. Am i really that bad or is it their anger against you that they are venting? I get confused sometimes when some close friend or a family member reveals something about me in a way that I never imagined it to be my motivation, but after some introspection I realize it is how they are seeing it. It may not be my intention to make them feel a certain way but it is my responsibility if they feel offended by my comment or certain behavior. Or is it ?
Let’s take a scenario – If I tell someone they are looking good and would have looked better if they had used a different color combination for their tie or a sweater. This can be seen in two ways, one is that I am their well wisher, complimenting them for their look and also suggesting something to look better. But at the same time, the receiver of this message may interpret it as they are not looking good in this combination and I outright criticized their dressing style. I can bet if you ask hundred people how they heard this statement, it will be a perfect divide between my way and the other way.
We all have our own outlook on everything and our outlook is based purely on our lifelong learning in the environment we grew up in and from our experiences. We have our biases and that is what we use to judge others. I feel the other person is wrong if they do not think or do things my way. Sometimes I accept the differences and move on. Sometimes if I look up to them, I accept whatever they do and accept almost everything.
So is there a right or wrong answer? I don’t know. But I feel self-awareness but more importantly, the awareness of the other person will give us better options to choose from for the right behavior. I have learned the hard way that the construct of my conversation and sentences should be in accordance with the sensitivity and tolerance level of the other person. We all know the people of varying sensitivity levels and tolerance levels from one end of the spectrum to the other. So we get into trouble or in these kinds of scenarios, when we say what we say without weighing it against the sensitivity of the receiver of our comments.
Lesson I am still trying to learn after 60+ years of learning is that we will never know the sensitivity of the people at any given moment. I may know someone’s general sensitivity and tolerance lever but what if they had something bad happen in their personal life and i am not aware of it, hence their sensitivity level at that moment may not be at their general sensitivity level. So I have learned to go with the assumption that no one, including me, is ready to accept any, perceived or real, contradictory or any thoughts with a possible connotation of negativity, so say what people would like to hear. Don’t give any personal advice, even if it is solicited, If they want to learn or improve themselves, they will have to write their own blog on introspection. 🙂
Being alone mentally and/or physically can be nirvana or the worst nightmare depending on the timing. There are moments in life when you desire and seek to be alone, just get away from everything and be by yourself that is called Alone-ness. But in those moments when you are alone and don’t want to be alone, you want to be with someone desirable, not just anyone, but can’t be with someone, that is called loneliness. I am sure most people have experienced both many times, as I have. But have you experienced loneliness for a prolonged period? Usually prolonged loneliness leads to depression. While Alone-ness can help you achieve nirvana, it may awaken your Kundalini or achieve enlightenment, loneliness on the other hand, can make one miserable, Irrespective of however many people may be around, you can still be lonely.
Loneliness is a state of mind that is created from a desire. Desire is an expectation, or wishful thinking that is impractical or unrealistic at that moment, and we know it. That impractical/unrealistic desire creates a hopelessness, called Loneliness. Depression in almost all cases, is a feeling of hopelessness, irrespective of the cause or origin of it. Depression can be caused by a number of reasons and feeling of loneliness is one of the reasons for depression.
Loneliness often is circumstantial. For example, people are lonely because the loved one or the desired ones are not around, and there is no hope of meeting them. Loss of someone near and dear can create prolonged loneliness, unless an alternative is found. Loneliness can also be short-term or temporary. You are used to doing some activity or meet someone almost every day and the absence of that activity or meeting can cause that short-term loneliness.
Generally, short-term loneliness is healthy. It teaches us the value of the other person or activity or whatever caused that loneliness. Two lovers fighting and not talking for a couple of days make them realize the value of the other person and the relationship, hence generally results in them making up and both people feeling sorry about the fight. And when that fight prolongs and results in surfacing of bigger issues, which may result in the end of the relationship, yet still the breakup often is heart-wrenching for those who go through this process.
I am planning on going on a solo trip across the USA and was thinking i will be quite miserable being alone for a prolonged period of time so decided to start practicing living alone. I went out for a walk and then had dinner by myself to feel how I would feel. And I felt so miserable for half of the time I was there. First half I felt miserable because I was seeing everyone else with others, talking and enjoying themselves while I was trying to find something interesting on my phone to keep myself from feeling lonely. But once I found some interesting thoughts and activities of my own, I stopped looking at others and stopped feeling miserable.
The bottom line is that when we stop looking at others and find something that interests us, we stop feeling lonely. Remember, next time you feel lonely, stop comparing yourself with others and find a hobby or activity to channelize your negative energy towards a positive outcome. If it’s a prolonged issue then seek advice from a professional.
My friend Chetna says nature is perfectly balanced and things happen like Corona, Hurricanes, Earthquakes etc. for a reason; it is nature’s way to balance things that humans have created to tilt nature one or the other. And I totally agree with it. But I want to take the balancing topic a few levels further. When we talk about balance of the nature and universe, it applies the same way to us as individuals as well, in our daily lives, in our thinking, in our relationships, in love, in anger, in joy, in celebration.
Since a very early age, i have always practiced balancing and have taken the middle of the road approach in almost everything. While it has helped me with my emotional intelligence, it has also had negative effects on my life in many ways. But I still practice balance in life, balance in everything i do. I am so indoctrinated into balanced life that i have developed a phobia of becoming a radical. I am too fearful of going too far to the left or right. I can say that balancing has become an obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) in my mind, just like being fair is an OCD for me,
Yes, I am sure many people think that balance brings mediocrity or balance makes you appear you don’t have strong beliefs about anything, you are a flip-flopper…. But nothing can be far from the truth. Being balanced emotionally or in your thinking does not mean you cannot be passionate about something. Being passionate and emotionally balanced are not mutually exclusive.
Emotionally balanced means you are able to apply equal level of rationalism (logical thinking) into your emotional thinking. Quite a few emotional people undermine the value of logic in their decision making process and look down upon logic because they value emotions so much and to them logic has very little place with emotional decisions. Similarly the opposite is true as well; people with logical minds give much value to logical thinking and overlook the power of emotions. So when we make any decision, generally our decisions are highly influenced by our logical or emotional inclinations.
So why is balancing important in life? Just like this universe and nature, everything has to stay in a state of equilibrium, otherwise all planets and stars will collide or go out of their rotational paths and cause utter chaos and may cause another “big boom”. Disturbing an apple cart is good for small things but tripping over the entire cart maynot be good for all living things. Similarly, our lives have to have a certain level of stability, rationalism, sensibility otherwise humans will kill each other and the entire humanity may end if people of unbalanced thinking take control, as it is evident with the current Trump administration. Utter chaos has replaced a well oiled machine.
Just like the universe is working in a balance, humans must live in a state of equilibrium to be in sync with the universe and when we are not in sync, our lives go in a different path of chaos. Creating this personal equilibrium starts with synchronization of your actions, your values, your mind, and ultimately your energies. Now this is a topic of discussion on its own. Look out for another blog on the topic of Karma!
Everyone has one or more soulmates. Lot of times we say these things very lightly without giving it a thought. I personally have used the same phrase a few times with a very shallow meaning of it. It is quite often used when two people’s thinking and/or personalities are aligned with each other. But is it just that or is there a deeper connection we feel but can’t describe it in true sense?
Recently, i read a book called “Many Lives, Many Masters”. The book is a true story of a psychiatrist who treated a patient for psychiatric issues but in the process discovered that his patient could connect with souls and see her previous lives dated back to thousands of years ago. It was shocking, startling and unbelievable for me.
Yes, I always believed in energies and energy connections in this life and previous lives but had never imagined the depth of how long energies can keep their memories. Likeness of energies and recollection of previous life stories i had heard of, but not to the extent this book has explored. Highly recommended for skeptics.
What does it mean to us? When we say soulmate, we literally might have known each other from our previous lives. As we all must have experienced that you get attracted to one person more than others, there may be an energy connection between two souls. Attraction does not necessarily mean romantic attraction, it can be between relatives, friends. Grandparent and grandchild, parent-child, certain relatives and friends who become more than your own blood relatives. And this attraction is instantaneous, it does not take years to build. It may start as one sided because energy has better signal or memory than the other. If you feel such a connection with someone, explore your deeper connection with that person. What is it that attracted you to that person? You will find that it is not just one thing that attracts you, you in general just like/love that person and can’t pinpoint what qualities attracted you to them.
How does it work? I have been debating the question of release of energy or soul at the time of death, what possibly happens to the soul at that moment, where does it go, what information it retains etc…. This book answered some of those questions. During the last 2-3 months of Covid-19 lockdown period, we interviewed a famous bollywood character actress Smita Jaikar who is also known for “Automatic Writing” where she can connect with any soul that has not reincarnated yet. Based on her experience, it takes 25-30 years for a soul to reincarnate. She has had very successful experiences communicating with souls. This tells me souls retain certain information from their previous lives.
Based on all these theories and real life experiences, I can more clearly relate with Geeta’s 2nd chapter that explains the concepts of energies and souls, which according to Geeta, transforms from soul to life and our Karma decides the kind of life we will have in the next physical world.
But tons of questions are left unanswered in my mind, like
1. When does a soul enter a human body and how? At the time of conception, after a few months of physical growth of an embryo, at the time of birth or somewhere in between
2. Are there souls from animals mixing in with human souls?
3. The number of humans have grown many folds over the last few thousand years, where are these additional souls being generated?
4. How much is destiny and how much is Karma dictating our lives?
5. Is abortion killing of a human soul or is it that soul’s karma that led to its destiny?
6. If animals are part of this soul cycle, do small insects also carry souls?
No one may ever know the answer but i feel good that some of my self analysis is on the right track while there is so much more to know and learn about this universe.
For thousands of years, every culture and society has had classes of people, a divide by economic, race, religion, cast, skin color, nationality, sexual preference, gender or just physical appearance. There is a great desire to judge or classify people based on some criteria. I am sure every living thing might have a similar divide, some by power, some by physical appearance or whatever else they can divide their species by. I cannot figure out why this human borne tendency exists in the first place and even if it is there, why can we not overcome it.
In any case, I am not here to discuss the cause and effects of traditional social divides but more from the point of view of a shift of traditional social divide vs modern day social divide. In the last decade or two, I have noticed that globally (or at least in the developed parts of the world), society is being divided into two casts – people who want to control humans thru technology and people who are letting others control them thru technology in exchange for convenience. Read it again.
Society is getting divided into “ Controllers” and “ Controlled”. We are now getting divided by how and who is controlling people’s minds. This divide is done thru technological instruments. We are directed to make choices that others want us to make, in very subtle ways. What we read, what we watch, what we buy, how we think, what we should do next, who we should hire, how we should drive, all these decisions are influenced by the Controllers. Controllers are the people and organizations who are developing and applying technologies in our everyday life to the extent we have stopped using our own thinking even for simple things like reading roadmaps.
I can hear almost everyone reading this, yelling and telling me that they are independent thinkers and make their own decisions after analysis. You are in denial. Yes people still do make some decisions of their own and claim to be independent thinkers. But let me give some simple examples.
– You start to write an email, suggestions appear and you take them because it saves you some typing; but do you stop and think that you should choose your own words instead of taking the suggested phrases and language?
– You are writing comments on FB or similar social media platform and suggestions appear to congratulate or cheer etc with some emoji, you take those because it expresses your feelings and saves time instead of thinking of a word of your choice.
– You are driving to some place and you enter a destination, the navigation system gives you a route and you take it without thinking if there is a better route for you based on your liking or the mood of the day. You don’t want to be bothered by these trivial things.
– You are on social media and all suggestions for what you read and what you should buy are made based on one click you made a while ago.
– Every new computer or phone app that is being built today focuses on how they can read your mind and help you do things without thinking; one extra click will hurt your feelings so these Controllers spend an enormous amount of time trying to save you one click in their app.
– AI – “Artificial Intelligence” is being applied in every new program being developed because they don’t want to disturb our fragile mind. They want programs to think for you and make a decision for you. So that you can spend time on entertainment and shopping.
– ML – “Machine Learning” is the talk of the town. Now machines are being trained to learn how you think and operate so that they can shift your brain’s thinking power to their thinking programs.
– Most popular recruiting programs nowadays are racing to use AI and ML so that the people who are responsible for hiring don’t have to make any real decision in the selection process of an employee. Someone applies for a job thru one click apply option, they get selected by an AI based “Top 3 to 5 candidates” logic that generally no one involved in the hiring process knows, then they are given a questionnaire to ask questions during the interview, so on and so forth.
This is our present and going to be our future.
So who are these controllers?
Controllers are the entrepreneurs of the mind controlling technology. They invest in very smart people who like to experiment with these sorts of things because for smart people, this is a game and behind these smart people are the money holders and money makers. Money makers are the ones who are playing the very smart people among us, challenging them and keeping them occupied with these mind games. But at the end these money makers are the ones who are winning by using the technology and their ideology to push their agenda, sell their products, and control people’s thinking.
Look at the media outlets, social media, marketing campaigns, the socio-political non-profit organizations, the innovative technology companies around you. They are all driven by the money and agenda of the people who control them. I am not saying they all have bad motives, but they all want to have your money. They set traps by offering you convenience or play with your emotions. They all want you to believe in their agenda and their message so that they can use you for the rest of their product’s life.
So think before you succumb to the modern technologies’ traps.
Life’s drama – Look around you, all the people that you know or have known, think who has what traits that you do not like. And then look at yourself and list all your traits that you like. You will notice that you have surrounded yourself with lots of people with traits that you do not like. Some of them are annoying and cause more stress than others but we still keep them in our life. Everyone has one or more of those traits that we do not like but we still love them, hang around them, and sometimes depend on them. Why? Why do we surround ourselves with such people?
From this thought I drew two conclusions- first that opposites attract, and second, everyone possesses certain traits that we do not like. Let us explore these further.
1. We get attracted to the traits that we admire but we don’t have. Because grass is always greener on the other side. So, it is a common conscious and subconscious tendency to get attracted to someone who possesses those traits. If I am not good looking and always wanted to be one, I will lean towards good looking people, if I am not very social and admire socializing as a good trait, I would be inclined to make more extrovert/social people my friend and vice versa. There are hundreds of such traits where people get attracted to a person of traits that they like, and in the process, they overlook or fail to recognize other traits and behaviors that become more important in life to maintain a relationship. A short person marrying a tall person just for the height can be dangerous in the long run. This is a very obvious example but if you go deeper into traits that really matter to sustain in any relationship, such as introvert vs extrovert, kind and giving vs a miser, free will and attitude vs person with lots of insecurities, nomadic spirit vs homebody. These relationships exist between siblings, parent and child, friends, coworkers etc..
2. The second conclusion was that every person has certain traits that we do not agree with, don’t like, irritate us or in many cases annoy the hell out of us. They can be very simple things such as interrupting your every sentence, trying to one up on everything you say, complaining about everything you do, nagging etc.. or they can go deeper where the values crash. I am a religious person and the other person makes fun of religion, I believe in rituals and other person is vehemently opposed to it. I am very flexible and open minded but the other person is rigid and stickler of principles. But looking at these annoying things usually comes from deeper reasons. Some things are the result of controlling instinct, some may be the result of insecurities, some from deep rooted fears, some from abuse, some from just cultural upbringing.
So what is the problem, you say. For any relationship to flourish, the baggage (traits you don’t like) must be minimal. More the mismatching traits, higher the chances of failing. Whenever the traits and values that you are attracted to, is outweighed by the traits that you resent, the relationship falters. Now reverse this scenario, if people are moving out of your relationship, you are carrying certain traits that people resent. It’s time to look at yourself and figure out why you are failing relationships. And if you start disliking many people, what is it that you are looking for? Are you looking for a perfect match?
Believe it or not, we are always evaluating our relationships, I call it judging others. We are always looking for a perfect relationship, we are generally not happy with many situations we are in at any given point. This is our constant desire to reach perfection; Our desire to reach the state of Nirvana. Each person’s definition of perfection is different and unique; hence every person’s definition of Nirvana is unique. We all are trying to find our perfect state, a Utopia.
Then what is our state of Nirvana and why no one ever reaches that state? Our state of perfection is having an ideal balance of – traits, thinking, values, and material things that we possess, and traits, thinking, values, and material things that we value but don’t have. We know what we have and can attain but there will always be traits, thinking, and material things that we never are or will be able to attain. Hence, we will never be able to reach the state of Nirvana.
Well, that was a broad generalization but I am sure there are some people who have reached or claim to have reached that perfect state of balance in their relationship where they have controlled their desires, they have practiced the unconditional acceptance of each other and managed their definition of perfection, perfectly.
But those people are exceptions. How do we, the common people, reach that state? And this is where we must know us. Often, when we make friends or get into intimate relationships, be it any kind of relationship that requires your commitment of any kind, we don’t do a cross-check (judgment) of each other’s values, and behaviors prior to entering in a relationship. We get into the relationship then start judging people. We commit first and then evaluate. We make friends first based on some superficial traits such as he/she is “a nice person”, “speaks well”, “jovial”, “fan of the same sporting team”, “of the same religion”, “drinks the same drink” “from your town”, and so on.. Then once they become friends, we start judging them. That in my opinion causes most heartaches and breakups.
Building relationships is like recruiting someone for a long-term employment in your company. You want to recruit someone with the intent to have someone who can meet most, if not all, your requirements of the job. Certain qualifications are required, certain are strongly preferred and some just good to have. Then the hired person must fit within your economic, emotional, time and availability budget and company culture.
How can we evaluate or judge people before committing to a relationship?
1. Build relationships with intent; ask yourself why you are interested in building this relationship
2. Create a list of values and behaviors that you value most and give each trait a weight with a positive number
3. Create a list of values and behaviors that you cannot tolerate and give each trait a weight with a negative number
4. Start observing, before committing, the traits in item 2 and 3
5. Have one-on-one conversation about items 2 and 3 lists
6. Analyze your data, can you commit to the items in your two lists?
7. Subtract the score of item 3 from the score of item 2 list. Which list outscores the other?
8. A high positive score, Net Relationship Score (NRS) of 50 or above, and a Net Relationship Index (NRI) of 50% or above the negative score is what you should be targeting for a good relationship. (See an example chart below)
9. Stay away from negative and borderline NRS and NRI numbers. Negative score people will cause negative effects in your life and borderline numbers people will cause heartache later in life.
You must be thinking this is crazy, who in their right mind does this. But surprisingly, we all do. The difference is we do it after getting into a relationship and not before. That is why some relationships break, which cause unnecessary emotional stress and drama in our lives.
The process of scoring your close friends does not have to be so formal. This is k=just a way to recognize what traits you value and which ones you cannot accept. This exercise helps us understand better. Then you say that people change. You were in a friendship with some people who are no longer attractive to you as friends because you have matured or changed your viewpoints, you have grown. It usually happens with your childhood friends. Yo may find several friends who you used to connect with dearly and promised never to break the friendship in this life, are no longer as connected as they used to be, mainly because of the paths and the values that you or your friends acquired over a period of time don’t sync up with your values and paths anymore. The same thing happens in marital and romantic relationships where one person in the relationship finds they are no longer on the same dimension/level/plane as they used to be. Hence, it is critical that you evaluate your relationships based on your current state of mind and values. This evaluation/scoring should be done at least annually to see where all those relationships stand.
Get out of negative relationships. And the ones who score high NRS value, keep them in your life. Look at all your borderline NRS positive score people, move them to the sidelines as extras, and play the game of life with your high NRS people. And one day, you may reach that state of Relationship Nirvana.
Hello and welcome to my blog of random thoughts ranging from life’s philosophy, spirituality to socio-political commentary.
My name is Manoj Tiwari and retired from my 9-5 job in August 2020. Now I plan to write, travel, video blog, podcasts, act and direct short films and plays and create whatever creative thoughts come to my mind.
Why am I doing this?
Because it gives me a pleasure to create something new. I worked in software product development most of my life and created several products that were used across the US and internationally. Always loved creating, it gives so much satisfaction that the failures and disappointments that also come with it are miniscule in comparison.
Because it will help me stay focused on original ideas about everything in life. Blog is an outlet for all those random thoughts that grow over period of time and builds an ideology.
Because someone said if any of my thoughts and ideas help someone in the process, why not. So hope it helps someone else as well, as it has helped me develop new thoughts and theories.
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A while back, read two stories that changed my attitude about life, for life.
Story 1 – Two terminally ill patients were sharing a hospital room, who couldn’t walk or do anything but stay in their beds. Patient one who arrived there first got a window-side bed, and the second patient didn’t have any view of the outside world. While staying there, they became good friends and would talk to each other quite often. Since the second patient didn’t have a window view, he would ask the first patient to tell him what he is seeing outside so he could also visualize and enjoy the scenery without actually seeing it. So several times during the day, patient-one would describe to the second patient, beautiful blue skies out there with sunlight shining on a beautiful garden below, flowers are blooming, and people are sitting in the sun enjoying the surroundings and each other. He would talk about beautiful women walking around in nice clothes and children playing in the garden, etc. So that went on for a few days, where the second patient was able to enjoy the outside view via patient one’s description. One day patient one’s time came, and he died of his ailment. A couple of days after they removed patient one from the room, patient two got the window bed. Excited, he looked outside, saw a cloudy sky and no sunshine above, then he looked down for the garden and to his surprise he found nothing of the sort that patient one had described. It was just a narrow alley with a bunch of dumpsters filled with garbage and garbage trucks collecting it. Patient two’s eyes were filled with tears.
Story 2– A man got severely injured in an accident. He was brought to the hospital, bleeding profusely, ripped open in a few places, and barely could breathe. Doctors and nurses tried hard to stop his bleeding as soon as he arrived at the hospital. Once surrounded by the doctors and nurses, the man started to smile, started joking with doctors, flirting with nurses, then slowly he fainted because of loss of blood but a smile stayed on his face. Doctors patched him up and stabilized him with a couple of surgeries and the man became conscious after a few hours. The attending doctor asked him, I have seen many patients but never seen a patient who was about to die from injuries but you kept smiling, laughing, and joking with everyone, how did you manage to do that? The patient said, doc, at that moment I had two choices, either to cry and scream, make myself miserable, distract you all from doing your job efficiently, OR knowing that I am in good hands, there is nothing I can do to change what has happened to me and what is going to happen to me, so I decided to make it pleasant for you all; obviously, my life was in your hands, so I wanted you all to do your job well.
The moral of both stories is, We always have two choices, and which choice we select mostly decides how we live our lives, in misery or in peace. It’s about positive or negative, it’s all about our attitude.
But is it a practical thing to do? Can we really find positives in a situation where our life is hanging by a thread? Do you know any such person?
I have seen my maternal grandmother, my Nani, in a similar situation. She was the first person I have seen literally dying in front of me. She had this indescribable attitude. She knew she was dying; she had lost her voice but she kept on asking my mother to execute her last rites with hand signals. Being a traditional Hindu woman in the 60s, her dying as a widower was the ultimate satisfaction for her. She raised her wrists filled with red bangles and showed everyone that she is dying a widower, she asked to put Ganges water and Tulsi leaves in her mouth and had my mother and my Nana Ji do all those traditional things that Hindus did in those days. Asked my mother to sing her favorite devotional song to her. And only after completing those rituals, did she quietly let her soul go. That was one of the most memorable events of my life that I will never forget. She managed her own death with the right attitude. That control was driven by unflinching faith in her “god”.
But not all who have unflinching faith in something, die the same way. The story is about attitude. Her death was imminent, but her mind controlled the process. She found joy even in those moments when most people would have taken her to the hospital for one more breath. She decided to manage it her way. Such is the power of our mind.
Our mind has so much power that we don’t even know, we don’t know how to actualize it. Because we are the product of our environment. If we are brought up and trained by people who themselves have not actualized their own brain power, how can we do it? To awaken our minds, we must stir them up. What Gautam Buddha did was one way of achieving wisdom and heightened awareness but that is not practical for most people. What is that we can do without taking sanyas and meditating for years?
We may not reach the level of heightened awareness or awakening, aka, Super-Consciousness, like Buddha but there are simple practical ways to reach a heightened state of awareness by (in no specific order):
independent thinking, and analyses,
questioning your own actions, reactions
questioning underlying motives
challenging our beliefs
challenging our routines
facing our fears head-on
understanding both sides of issues before settling on one
accepting ourselves completely with all shortcomings
challenging our shortcomings
reaching into an uncomfortable zone of thinking
meditate and open the unopened rooms of your mind
The mind is a malleable piece of mass that learns whether you train it intentionally or not. It will learn no matter what, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to feed it desired content or uncontrolled content. It’s like parents, they have a choice to let their children learn “unintended content” about life on his/her own from others in the community or provide intentional teaching with desirable values and content. Most parents focus on academic teachings, but life’s lessons and deeper thinking are very limited in training young minds. Imposing our own limitations, our own fears, and miseries make our children just like us.
Creative, fearless, boundaryless thinking can possibly make a person open to higher levels of awareness and awakening, a state of Super-Consciousness.
To me freedom is a state of mind, knowing no matter what I do, it is going to be ok. No fear! Not sure if I am there yet but want to be.
My idea of freedom is the acceptance of you, your actions but more about freedom of knowing that you can do whatever you want to do and don’t hold it back because of social, physical and emotional fears.
I was listening to a podcast and the guest, an author and a life coach, mentioned something about freedom. That triggered in my mind, what is freedom. Everyone may have their own definition. But I started to think what will make me free.
To me freedom is a state of mind. I don’t have to go anywhere to experience freedom. I can be in the remotest place on earth with no one around and no laws to follow but I still may feel bonded by my own fears, my own subconscious beliefs, teachings etc.
A state of freedom may mean when you are able to think, act and react unencumbered from any influence of fear, where the mind experiences no external influence now or ever.
While looks can be deceiving, but you see some people and know they are totally free. Their mind and thinking is not bound by any fears or preconceived ideas of anything. They think independently, they think outside of the box, they are self-less thinkers, they are peaceful, and happy….. they reach a state of mind that can only be experienced and not defined in a definition.
It’s like reaching Nirvana, it can be experienced but not defined.
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